WhatNotToSay#10 looks at all the spare time we have

WhatNotToSay#10 takes a look at all the wonderful and fulfilling spare time we have because we don’t have children.

Everyone has 24hrs a day in which to live their lives. Into those hours we need to fit in sleeping, eating, and, for many of us, working. What is left over is our spare time. The time when we get to chose what we do to fill in that time.

“When I hear people talk about juggling, or the sacrifices they make for their children, 
I look at them like they're crazy, because 'sacrifice' infers that there was something 
better to do than being with your children.” 
Chris Rock

Parents spend much of that time doing things with their children. Raising and nurturing them. The parts of being an adult that we have been denied. On the over hand, when we are in the midst of our grief, our spare time is spent grieving for everything that we have lost. Our grief is so great that we can’t take advantage of the spare time that we might have.

WhatNotToSay#10 video

In this video we explore this insensitive comment in more detail:

We hope our thoughts have given you something to think about. In Creating A New And Beautiful Existence we need to find ways to overcome the insensitive comments that people say to us.

#WhatNotToSay infographics

To help raise awareness about #WhatNotToSay we are creating an infographic for each of the topics we cover in this series. All of these images are downloadable so you can share them.

To download the infographic for WhatNotToSay#10 please click on the image below. You can find the other inforgaphics currently available here.

 

Practice makes perfect

It’s all well and good writing about things in theory: however, we need to start applying what we learn. If you are feeling strong enough, I would like you to plan your “ideal world” response to this type of comment. Give it a go even though no one has ever made this comment to you. There is always a first time, and it’s better to be prepared.

Be kind to yourself …

In CANBACE friendship!

 

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